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  • Writer's pictureJenny Andrea

14 quirky ways to spice up your relationship

Sometimes, it just takes a little bit of proactive effort to relight that spark in your relationship.

It’s easy to feel like your relationship has run its course. Things may start to feel repetitive and less exciting as compared to when you first started dating. That’s completely normal and it happens even to the best of us. However, it doesn't have to be that way. Below are fourteen unique and effective ways to relight that missing (but not gone!) spark between you and your partner.

1. Set the mood/tone

It's a no-brainer that vibe is everything. Therefore, candles are a bedroom must-have. They are simply phenomenal when it comes to creating a great ambiance. Bonus points if they are scented!

Another effective way to set the mood is to make a playlist. Slow and reverb songs are best if you and your partner are in the mood for some light cuddling.

2. Learn a Tiktok trend

You don’t necessarily have to post them on the platform but trying Tiktok trends and learning new dances would be a great way to get a good laugh with your partner and reconnect with that fun and playful side of your relationship. A great Tiktok dance for couples to learn right now would be the “My Money Don’t Jiggle Jiggle” dance. It’s arguably one of the easiest dances and consists of only five to six simple steps. The sound is also extremely catchy so mentally prepare yourself to have that song stuck in your head for the next few days (if you don't already).

3. Pick on a hobby

This is sure to make you and your partner grow closer as you pick on a hobby you both can enjoy together. It can be as simple as learning a new language, taking dancing classes or even doing home workouts. You could also hit the gym together. It’s easier to stay motivated when you have a gym buddy there with you!

4. Go on a crazy adventure

The great outdoors await! From bungee jumping to scuba diving, the list is simply endless. Just make sure you’re ready and prepared for the adrenaline rush you and your partner are sure to experience on this wild endeavor.

5. Don’t be afraid to be spontaneous

Randomly take your partner out for a night walk, listen to some Ed Sheeran and end the night by grabbing some street food. You could also sit somewhere quiet and watch the stars. The point is to break that monotonous routine you and your partner may have developed overtime and do something completely out of the ordinary.

6. Travel somewhere exotic

Planning your next trip? If so, visiting a foreign and exotic location is always a romantic way to connect with your partner as you discover a new place, food and culture together. The list of great locations to head to is basically endless, but you could start by considering these ten romantic places!

7. Spend some time apart

Maybe the reason why you and your partner feel as though the relationship is beginning to feel monotonous is because you may not give each other time to miss each other. Try spending some time apart for a bit and watch how you’ll start to appreciate each other’s presence even more. Like the old saying goes, distance makes the heart grow fonder.

8. Dress to impress

It can be easy to get comfortable and not put in any effort to go out of your way to dress up, especially when you’ve been dating for a while now. However, try to pretend like your relationship is brand new. Rock your Sunday best and eat at fancy restaurants. This will revive the spark and restore a new wave of romance into your relationship.

9. Calendar reminders

Grab your boo’s phone and set up alarm reminders that will pop up with the sweetest and most thoughtful messages to keep them thinking about you all day, every day. They can be as simple as cute text messages you would often send them, for example, “Can’t wait to see you tonight. I love you :)”.

10. Romantic gestures

Even though your love language may not particularly be acts of service, romantic gestures could undeniably help reinforce that bond between you and your partner and show them that you care. These could be as simple as cooking them a nice dinner or bringing them lunch at work (or school).

11. Live lavishly (Or at least pretend to)

You and your partner could pretend to be a famous couple visiting multi-million dollar open houses and paying a visit to exclusive car dealerships. This little game of play-pretend will set in a wave the excitement between you and your partner in crime!

12. Compliment each other

It may sound silly but verbally appreciating each other reinforces that connection between the both of you. You and your partner could take it a step further and write love letters to each other, pouring your heart and soul, expressing your most genuine feelings. This emotional exercise will relight that spark in the relationship and will remind you both why you fell in love in the first place.

13. Go the extra mile

Bake him a chocolate cake (if chocolate is his favorite flavor) or get him that pair of sneakers he’s been talking about for days. The point is to be willing to go above and beyond for your partner simply because you appreciate them and would like to show them how much they mean to you.

14. Take care of yourself

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, it is crucial to make time to work on yourself in all aspects and areas, including physically and mentally. You can only love someone as much as you love yourself. Therefore, it’s important to be kind to yourself first.

In light of this new information, you may be dying to rekindle the romance between you and your partner. That’s completely understandable! Just make sure you both are doing things because you want to do it and not because you feel pressured to make it work. Remember, if something’s important enough, both people have to be willing to fight for it. If it’s one-sided, then it may not be worth it. Love is a road that goes both ways.


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