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  • Writer's pictureAminah Matthews - Team Flamme

Love Languages Made Easy: Practical Ways to Fulfill Your Partner's Desires

So you've taken Gary Chapman's Love Language Quiz and uncovered the types of love your partner appreciates most. Awesome! Now comes the exciting part—putting this valuable insight into action.


In a previous article, we gave you a guide to understanding the types of love languages. Now we’re going to provide actionable examples for each:

1. Words of Affirmation:

  • Take note of your partner’s goals and offer specific compliments that show genuine interest and pride in their achievements.

  • Write personalized messages on sticky notes and hide them in unexpected places.

  • Spend extra time writing heartfelt cards for holidays.

  • Express gratitude for them publicly during family and friend gatherings.

  • Use special nicknames or terms of endearment that are meaningful to your relationship.

  • Never underestimate the power of a simple “Thank you” and “I love you.”

2. Gift Giving:

  • Take your partner to lunch or have lunch sent to them during their work day.

  • Replenish their necessities when you see they're running low.

  • Buy gifts that support their goals or new skills they want to learn.

  • Surprise them with fun experiences like concerts, sporting events, or getaways.

  • Create handmade gifts such as scrapbooks or coupons for special favors.

3. Acts of Service:

  • Give them a night off from daily duties like cooking, cleaning, or driving.

  • Offer to run errands such as returning packages or getting the oil changed.

  • Help them relax by encouraging them to kick their feet up with a beer or a glass of wine.

  • Listen actively to their concerns, thoughts, and ideas.

  • Assist them in achieving personal goals, whether it's waking them up for their morning run or reviewing their resume for spelling errors.


4. Quality Time:

  • Read a book together to deepen your intellectual connection.

  • Implement a no phones or TV policy during dinner to focus on each other.

  • Take showers together to savor intimate moments.

  • Go for walks together to decompress and connect with nature.

  • Volunteer together as a way to improve your relationship and the community.

  • Schedule routine date nights, whether it's going out for a fancy dinner or having a cozy movie night at home.

5. Physical Touch:

  • Start your morning with 10 minutes of cuddling to set a positive tone for the day.

  • Give your partner a scalp massage- It’s great for relaxation and hair growth!

  • Take ballroom dance classes to enjoy physical touch and quality time.

  • Engage in sensory play by blocking your partner's sight and sound to focus on touch.

  • Lotion your partner as you express gratitude for their body.

  • Incorporate couples yoga into your wellness routine.

Things to Remember:

  • Never assume your partner wants to receive love in the same way you do. Always ask!

  • Regularly check in with your partner as love languages can change over time.


Disclaimer: The information provided here is for general informational purposes only. Please do not use the information provided here as a replacement for therapy or professional advice. For the full disclaimer policy, please refer to

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