5 reasons why your friends with benefits could turn into a great relationship
Friends with benefits or a real relationship? What do you truly desire?
Naturally when you sign up for a friends with benefits (FWB) relationship, criticism comes with the package. Modern stories give the impression that people hookup, have sex for a while, and then just "slide" into a long-term relationship. A relationship doesn't just happen spontaneously, especially after sex - it takes dating and communication in the right way to get there.
Everyone eventually wants to settle down at some point of time. You want to have a special story about meeting your partner at a wine tasting and falling in love at first sight, but the real world is way more messier. You might end up falling for your friend with benefits, and trust me, it can work out only if you want. Despite what people say, starting out as FWB doesn’t mean you’re destined for a disaster, you too can have your forever ending. Here's why:
1. You have good sex
At some point of time your relationship revolved around sex which means you had been getting it good. There was never a reason to fake anything, it all came naturally and good sex was the end goal. When you transition from FWB to a partner, a lot of things will change, but the amazing sex will stay the same.
2. Nothing is forced in your relationship
If you fall in love with your FWB, you know you must be crazy about them. Why? Because you’ve been trying so hard not to develop feelings. The love blossoms against your will, which must mean your feelings are very strong and they are fighting against your common odds.
3. It is unexpected
The best things in life are the most unpredictable ones. Many people will try to pull you down by saying “you will never work out in a FWB relationship” but there are many people who started out as hookup buddies but ended up happily married. Be like them and prove the world wrong.
4. You trust each other
They take care of you and tell you their darkest secrets. It’s because they trust you. Giving up no-strings-attached sex to be called your boyfriend/girlfriend means they are serious about you.
5. You are truly each other's best friend
Above all you are both best friends. There are two types of friends with benefits. There is the type that meets up, have sex and immediately leaves without a kisses or a cuddles. Then, there is the type that drives to your place to hang out like buddies and watch TV, and then you have sex as a bonus.
If you’re a part of the second group, then you have a strong bond with your FWB that extends beyond the bedroom. If you decide to date, the fact that you were friends first is a huge benefit.
Remember "When you stop expecting the other person to be perfect, you can like them for who they are". It's not very often that you find a partner in your FWB. True love is all about embracing your partner with open arms.
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