What Makes Us Feel Appreciated? Insights from 3,941 Relationship Quiz Takers

We all want to feel valued in our relationships, but the ways we experience appreciation can vary dramatically. Recently, nearly 4,000 people took the “Type of Lovers - Flamme’s 16 Relationship Personality Quiz” and answered a simple yet revealing question: “I feel most appreciated when my partner…”

The results provide a fascinating snapshot into the ways we crave connection in modern relationships:

• 32% feel most appreciated when their partner makes time to check in and ask about their day

• 22% value compliments on their achievements and strengths

• 21% appreciate a thoughtful, spontaneous present

• 14% feel seen when their partner helps with errands and to-do lists

• 11% are touched by physical affection in public

It’s striking that the largest group—almost one in three—put the highest value on a partner’s time and emotional presence. In our fast-paced world, taking a moment to genuinely ask about each other’s day seems to be the ultimate act of care. It’s not grand gestures or material gifts that matter most, but simple, attentive presence.

Compliments and thoughtful gifts still rank highly, underscoring the universal need for affirmation and recognition. Surprisingly, acts of service and public displays of affection, while meaningful, resonate less than the other options. This might suggest that emotional intimacy and daily connection have become the new currency of appreciation.

These insights reveal not just how we want to be loved, but where we may be missing opportunities to connect with our partners. Are you expressing appreciation in the way your partner values most?

Curious about your own relationship personality? Discover what makes you feel most appreciated and learn how you can deepen your connection. Take the Type of Lovers Quiz now at https://www.typeoflovers.com ✨