Question 1

How does the relationship health check work?

Accepted Answer

Twelve honest questions across six dimensions drawn from relationship research: how current your knowledge of each other is, how you respond to each other's bids for attention, whether conflict ends in repair, spoken appreciation, shared meaning, and room for individual space. You get a percentage, a band, and per-dimension bars showing exactly where to invest.

Question 2

What's a 'good' score?

Accepted Answer

The bars matter more than the total. 85%+ means the systems are humming; 65-84% is strong with clear growth edges; 40-64% suggests drift worth reversing deliberately; below 40% deserves real attention, possibly with a counselor. Every band comes with specific next steps.

Question 3

Is this based on actual research?

Accepted Answer

The dimensions are informed by the research tradition of John Gottman and colleagues - love maps, bids and turning toward, repair attempts, fondness, and shared meaning - plus autonomy support. The quiz itself is a self-reflection tool we built, not a validated clinical instrument, and one partner's snapshot on one day.

Question 4

Should we both take it?

Accepted Answer

Yes - separately, then compare bars. The gaps between your two snapshots are usually more informative than either score alone. If comparing feels risky rather than interesting, that itself is useful information, and a couples counselor is a good next call.

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the six dimensions

Knowing Each Other

Turning Toward

Conflict & Repair

Appreciation

Shared Meaning

Space & Support

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