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  • Writer's pictureAminah Matthews

Alphabet Dating: Unique Date Ideas from A to Z

Feeling stuck in a dating rut? We’ve all been there – the endless back-and-forth of “What do you want to do tonight?” “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” often ends in yet another dinner and movie night. If you’re craving more excitement and creativity in your relationship, it’s time to try this hot trend: Alphabet Dating.


What is Alphabet Dating?

Alphabet Dating, also known as ABC Dating, involves planning date ideas based on each letter of the alphabet. For example, B for Battle Shots, P for Pizza Making, and T for Tissue Paper Art. Unlike other lists that repeat the same old suggestions, our curated guide offers unique and unforgettable experiences for every letter, ensuring you and your partner create lasting memories.


Alphabet Date Ideas

🧘‍♀️ Acroyoga for Couples: Balancing Trust and Fun 🙆‍♂️

couple doing yoga on a mountain
Photo Credit: Anastasia Shuraeva

Looking for a fun trust-building activity? Try Acroyoga, a couples yoga style! Find an open space either outdoors or inside your house, ensuring you have plenty of room. If you're new to Acroyoga, start with a beginner video like this one.



🏚 Bookstore Boo 👻

man and woman on picnic blanket reading books
Photo Credit: Mental Health America (MHA)

Head to your local bookstore and pick 5 books from different genres that look interesting. Flip to a random page in each book and read the chapter together. Afterward, let your imagination run wild as you try to predict the rest of each book. Choose the most intriguing one, and if you're up for it, continue reading it together at home! Use this link to find a bookstore near you.



🕯️ Candlelit Creations: DIY Date Night ❤️‍🔥

woman holding wick to make candles
Photo Credit: Vlada Karpovich

You've probably used candles to set the mood, but have you ever tried to make your own? Book a candle making class in your area or gather the materials for a fun DIY experience at home. As a special challenge, pick a scent that reminds you of your partner or a specific memory from your relationship and share why you chose it.



🍽️ Dine and Dash 💨

man and woman eating at food truck
Photo Credit: Kampus Production

The name of the game is Dine & Dash- but with a playful twist! Here's how it works- set a budget for your dinner experience and head to a lively area with plenty of food choices within walking distance. The challenge? Try one meal from each restaurant. You'll want to give yourself enough time so forget waiting for the check – pay in cash and dash to your next spot! Let the dining games begin!




🥷 Embrace Your Inner Warrior: Self-Defense Class 🥋

man and woman boxing in self defence class
Photo Credit: Julia Larson

Knowing how to protect yourself is an essential life skill. Whether you master a martial art or learn the basics of defense, any bit of training can boost your confidence and ability to protect what matters. Read this article to decide which self-defense style resonates with you, then schedule a class to get started.



🍸 Flappers & Fedoras: Blast To The Past 🎷

man and woma in bar drinking in a cocktail
Photo Credit: Cottonbro Studio

Take a blast to the past and relive the hype of the roaring 20's! First, dress the part by collecting your 20's ensemble from the thrift shop or your closet. Then, get ready to break a sweat as you learn to move those feet to the popular dance style, The Charleston. Lastly, end the night at your local speakeasy or create your own hidden gin joint at home with jazz music and cocktail glasses.




🚘 Getaway to the Unknown 🪙

man and woman in car
Photo Credit: Cottonbro Studio

Don't think, just go! Choose your mode of transportation and randomly select your direction by flipping a coin at each intersection. Heads- Take a right. Tails- Take a left. When you've stumbled across a new area that looks interesting and safe, get out and explore! Every adventure is incomplete without a great mixtape! Create your own or vibe to the our curated playlist.



🎱 Hobby Swap: A Look Into Your Partner's World 🎮

man and woman playing video games on the couch
Photo Credit: VAZHNIK

You can learn a lot about a person through their hobbies. Choose a hobby you want to share with your partner and invite them into your world. Teach them about your hobby and show them why you love it. If you're in need of new hobbies to try together, here's a list to spark your imagination. If you don't have any hobbies, we've got you covered. Here's a list of new hobbies you can try together.



🥗 Ingredients For Kindness: Volunteer Date 📝

man and woman wearing volunteer tshirts and holding plants
Photo Credit: Mikhail Nilov

Giving back feels oh so good! Experience the joy of serving your community by volunteering with a nonprofit to deliver meals to those in need. You'll have plenty of quality time together as you drive to different homes.


Bonus: Spread a little extra kindness and love by writing heartfelt notes for each person you deliver to.



😜 Jumpin' For Joy 🤪

man and woman on trampoline
Photo Credit: David Iloba

If your inner child is eager for action, this date is perfect for you. Laugh, play, and burn some calories at your nearest Trampoline Park. Just remember to stretch first! While this date is guaranteed to make you feel like a kid again, your body may not agree. For the best stretches to prevent injury, read this article.



😘 Kinky Connection 💋

sex toy and candles
Photo Credit: Dainis Graveris

In the world of sex, there are many stimulating toys that can be used to enhance your pleasure. Visit your local sex store and select three intriguing items that pique your interest. Then let your partner choose the one they feel most comfortable buying to try at home. Remember, intimacy is all about communication and trust, so have an open and honest conversation about your sexual boundaries.



💕 Love and Crafts: Creating A Custom Blanket 🧵

man and woman hugging with blanket
Photo Credit: Gustavo Fring

Create a cozy keepsake by making a personalized cuddle blanket! Visit an Arts and Craft store and take turns choosing a fleece fabric that represents your personality. Then, have them cut to equal sizes. Watch this video for instructions on turning your fabric into a sentimental blanket you can treasure forever.



🎵 Musical Fantasies- Discovery Date 🎸

boy and girl listening to music in headphones
Photo Credit: Ron Lach

Music can reveal a lot about someone's personality! In this discovery date, find out which songs your partner would choose to accompany the following scenarios:


  1. You and your partner are seeing each other for the first time, what song is playing in your head?

  2. It's your last day on earth, what song best represents your thoughts and feelings in your final moment?

  3. You just won the lottery, what song plays as you step off your private jet?

  4. A meteor hits Earth, giving you superpowers. What theme song is playing as you take your first flight?

  5. You're going into battle against evil forces, what song will you play to motivate your army to fight?

  6. Your friend just went through a bad breakup, what's the best song to help them move on?

  7. Humans find a way to freely travel the galaxy. What song do you blast over your spaceship's speakers?

  8. You're trapped in a time loop where the same song is playing over and over, which song would drive you insane? Which song could you listen to forever?



😇 Naughty or Nice: Scrabble with a Twist 😈

adults playing scrabble
Photo Credit: Kevin Malik

This is not your family-friendly version of Scrabble. In this after hours edition, you will play according to the normal rules with a few spicy additions.


Rule 1: You can only spell words related to love, sex, and intimacy.

Rule 2: If you don't have the letters to spell a word, no problem! Exchange your letters by completing a dare of your partner's choosing.

Rule 3: When choosing a dare, be as naughty or nice as you like while respecting each other's boundaries.



💌 Open When: Letters for the Next Generation 📝

woman writing letter on bed
Photo Credit: Cottonbro Studio

Everyone has a unique story to share. Capture yours in a notebook by writing 10 letters recounting significant moments in your life that have shaped who you are today. Pass on wisdom from valuable lessons you've learned through love, struggle, faith, and more. Seal each letter in an envelope and address them to a special person you wish to inspire in the future- a grandchild, niece, friend, or even a stranger. Give each letter a title starting with "Open when".... When the time is right, deliver the letters to your desired reader. While our bodies may not be immortal, this activity is a great reminder that our stories can live on.If you're interested in other ways writing can be used in your relationship, check out this article.



🌻 Plant love in your life 👨🏼‍🌾

man and woman planting flowers
Photo Credit: Mikhail Nilov

Starting a garden is a wonderful way for a couple to improve their mental health while enjoying the beauty of nature. Even if nothing grows right away, you'll feel more connected to nature, which is always a plus! Additionally, gardening has been shown to reduce stress levels, boost mood, and increase feelings of happiness and well-being.



🌈 Quirky Color Quest 📸

girl standing in front of yellow wall
Photo Credit: Rethaferguson

Explore the world in vibrant color! Choose a shade that intrigues you and embark on a journey to find objects in your town and nature that match your color. Take creative photos with your discoveries and enjoy our color-themed playlist as the soundtrack to your adventure.



💃 Rhythm of Romance: Bachata Night ❤️

man and woman dancing in house
Photo Credit: Andres Ayrton

The art of partner dancing is all about connection. While there are many intimate styles, Bachata is known to be one of the most sensual. Some even believe it originated as a sort of mating dance 😉 Find a class near you and let the rhythm of the music guide you in an expression of passion and attraction. If you're unfamiliar with Bachata, you're in for a sultry treat! Check out this video.



 ☀️Sunny State of Mind☀️

man and woman sitting at sunset
Photo Credit: Jasmin Wedding Photography

Before the sun sets, gather blank paper and any coloring utensils you have. Find a peaceful spot like your front porch or a park and create a picture of the sunset. Within your artwork, list ten things you're grateful for at that moment. If you're both morning people, draw the sunrise!



🧱 Temptation Tower: Jenga With A Spicy Twist 🌶️

man and woman play jenga on table
Photo Credit: Cottonbro Studio

Experience a spicy twist on the classic game: Jenga! This playful yet intimate date night activity is designed to bring you even closer. Use an old Jenga set or grab a new one and jot down one sexual question or task on each block. Play by the normal rules on the box, but this time, when you pull a block, complete the written prompt. Stack, pull, and dive into a world of playful connection as you reveal the flirty surprises on each block. For ideas on spicy prompts to use, check out this article.



⌛️ Under Pressure: Minute-To-Win-It 🥇

two guys playing beer pong
Photo Credit: Kevin Malik

Tick Tock! In this race against the clock, you will complete a series of 10 games, with one minute to beat your partner and earn a point. The person with the most points will claim the victory and a reward of their choosing. Read the instructions here, and let the games begin!



🔎 Vision Quest: Mind Mapping Your Future 🧠

arts and crafts on table
Photo Credit: Karolina Grabowska

Create a mind map for your future using a blank sheet of paper or digital canvas. Work together to decide on a common mission statement that best represents your relationship. Write this statement at the center of your map. Then think of all the areas you want to grow in and milestones you want to achieve together. List each topic inside a box surrounding your mission statement. Use lines to connect the areas that relate to each other. Finally, brainstorm actionable steps you can take to make your goals a reality.



🍳 What's Cookin' Good Lookin' 👨‍🍳

man and woman cooking in kitchen
Photo Credit: Ivan Samkov

Have you ever seen those crazy cooking shows where the chef has an hour to make something delicious out of a bunch of random ingredients? Well, welcome to your very own Flamme cooking show: Couples Edition! Head to the kitchen and get ready for some fun. Start by choosing one person to stand in front of the pantry and one person to stand in front of the fridge. Now, both of you will close your eyes and randomly select 3 ingredients from each location.


No peaking! Place all 6 ingredients on the counter. You have 2 hours to create a dish with the ingredients you've chosen. You're allowed to use more than these 6 ingredients but all 6 have to be included in someway! For a little friendly competition, race against each other and score your dishes at the end or work as a team and ask someone else to judge your creation. Either way, be creative and have fun!



🗺️ X Marks the Spot: A Thrilling Treasure Expedition 🏔️

guy with treasure map
Photo Credit: Francesco Paggiaro

Every great treasure hunt includes a map, an adventure, and an X marking the spot. Put on your explorer hat and get ready to create your own quest! First, choose the treasure. It can be money, a special note, or any knickknacks you're willing to give away. Put them into a small box or a ziplock bag for safekeeping. Then, pick a hiding spot like a park or a trail (avoid private property!) and bury the treasure. Finally, create a treasure map paving the way to the hidden goodies. Don't forget to mark the spot with an X and leave the map in a good place for someone to find!



👑 Your Majesty: Rule For A Day 🙌

Queen chess piece
Photo Credit: Pixabay

In a land far away, you've been given supreme rule over the Kingdom! Take turns acting as King or Queen for the day. During your reign, you'll get the chance to make all the decisions- including what you both wear, eat, and do. If you really want to feel like royalty or you just love a chance to role play, wear a crown. Just remember to keep it fun, playful, and respectful. Don't let all that power go to your head!



🧟 Zombie Apocalypse 101 💀

zombies in a feild
Photo Credit: Cottonbro Studio

See if you have what it takes to survive a Zombie Apocalypse in this interactive scavenger hunt around your city. Zombie Scavengers have it all planned out for you! All you need is to buy a ticket from their website and download the app to get started on this deadly adventure. Maybe it's fiction or a future prediction, but either way, it never hurts to be prepared!


Looking for more exciting date ideas to connect with your partner?

Check out Flamme - The Couples App! Flamme features over 100 creative date night ideas focused on sex & intimacy, fun & adventure, trust building, and more. The app simplifies planning by letting you share your top three date picks with your partner so they can choose their favorite. Plus, you can schedule your dates directly in the app, making sure you never miss out on quality time. Keep the fun alive and continue to create beautiful memories together with Flamme.

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