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Questions for Couples

12 questions for new couples 🌱

For the figuring-each-other-out phase: pace, patterns, green flags, and what you're each quietly hoping this becomes. Honest early beats surprised later.

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What did you text your best friend after our first date?

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All 12 new couple questions - screenshot friendly, steal freely.

  1. 1. What did you text your best friend after our first date?
  2. 2. What's your green flag: the small thing that tells you someone is good news?
  3. 3. What's something you're afraid I'll find out about you and judge?
  4. 4. How do you know when you actually like someone versus just liking the attention?
  5. 5. What's your honest opinion on how we met?
  6. 6. What pace feels right to you, and where did you learn that?
  7. 7. What's one thing your last relationship taught you that you're bringing into this one?
  8. 8. When did you first think 'okay, this could be something'?
  9. 9. What's your family going to notice about me first?
  10. 10. What are you deliberately not rushing with me?
  11. 11. What's a dealbreaker you've never said out loud on a date?
  12. 12. Which of your friends' opinions about us matters most to you?

how to use them well

trade, don't interrogate

Every question you ask, you answer too. Early relationships run on matched vulnerability - one-way questioning feels like a job interview with candles.

listen for patterns, not perfection

Answers about exes, family, and fears aren't pass/fail - they're a map of how this person loves. You're learning the terrain, not grading it.

say the quiet part kindly

Questions about pace and dealbreakers feel risky precisely because they matter. Asking them early, warmly, is a green flag in itself.

good questions, answered

The ones that reveal patterns and pace: 'What's one thing your last relationship taught you that you're bringing into this one?', 'What pace feels right to you?', 'What's your green flag?' All in the deck above.

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